The Clarity Question

"Is this truth? 
Is it absolutely, 
unequivocally true?" 

That has become my question, 
when I need steering from
confusion back to clarity,
when I need to detect deception
instead of falling for fabrication,

when I receive messages
that I need to:

obtain a certain look,
be married by a definitive age,
have a specific number of kids,
pursue a particular plan for my life.

I used to fret when other people placed these expectations on me
(and occasionally still do, on bad days or in weak moments).
But more often, I ask myself:

"Is this absolutely true? 
Do I really need (or even want) to look a stereotypical way, 
marry by a certain time, 
have a set amount of kids, 
or seek any one accomplishment? 
Are any of those things as plainly true as 2+2=4, with no other possible considerations?"

No. 

No, those statements aren't true. Maybe they equal other people's truth,

but not mine. 

I can go after the look I want, which doesn't have to be a cultural standard.
I can marry at any age I feel is right for me, if I feel it is right for me.
I can try to have kids,
or adopt kids,
or simply work with kids---
or run fast to the other room when I see kids coming.
I can attempt any goal(s) I think I should, not necessarily the ones others think I should.

And this equals more freedom. Increased possibilities. Less need for approval.
Greater awareness that I am going to receive a lot of messages
which I simply don't need to buy into.

Life this way is better.

Do you have a 'clarity question?'